July 6, 2025

254. Brotherhood & Accountability, Part 2

The player is loading ...
254. Brotherhood & Accountability, Part 2

Send us a text Brotherhood is a divine antidote to the isolation systems working to pull men apart in today's world. We explore how the cultural demand for men to display constant strength prevents them from acknowledging weakness and seeking connection. • Christ himself demonstrated human vulnerability in the Garden of Gethsemane, showing that weakness is not a failure of manhood but part of humanity • Modern systems force men to divide limited time between God, family, work, and self, ofte...

Send us a text

Brotherhood is a divine antidote to the isolation systems working to pull men apart in today's world. We explore how the cultural demand for men to display constant strength prevents them from acknowledging weakness and seeking connection.

• Christ himself demonstrated human vulnerability in the Garden of Gethsemane, showing that weakness is not a failure of manhood but part of humanity
• Modern systems force men to divide limited time between God, family, work, and self, often leaving no room for brotherhood
• Men often don't respond to outreach from brothers because they haven't accepted their own weakness
• The paradox that a woman can make mistakes and still be a woman, but society tells men they're "not men" if they show weakness
• Aging naturally reveals our physical limitations, creating opportunity for inner strength to grow
• Intentional brotherhood requires fighting against isolation through regular connection, not just annual events
• When men unite with singular purpose, they create powerful protection and strength for themselves and others
• Responding to brothers' texts and calls works both ways—don't just reach out when you need something

Remember that Jesus Christ is the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, and through Him, we can embrace both our humanity and our strength.


Support the show

Social Media/Follow Us:

Website:https://www.calledbygodpodcast.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/cbg.podcast/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/CalledbyGodPod
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@calledbygodpodcast


Chapters

01:03 - Embracing Human Weakness Like Christ

02:36 - Systems Pulling Men Apart

03:46 - The Power of Men United

05:10 - Responding to Your Brothers' Calls

07:01 - Recognizing When You're Drifting Away

12:54 - Confronting the Myth of Constant Strength

19:08 - Intentional Brotherhood and Getting Older

26:20 - Final Thoughts on Fatherhood

Transcript
WEBVTT

00:00:00.119 --> 00:00:07.269
It's okay to look at Christ in that moment, and what the scripture is trying to show you is that he's human.

00:00:07.269 --> 00:00:13.592
Yeah, and I think that might be the lesson for us men who wrestle with it.

00:00:13.592 --> 00:00:15.205
Listen, you're weak.

00:00:15.205 --> 00:00:16.329
What does that mean?

00:00:16.329 --> 00:00:32.933
It means that you're the brotherhood once again isolation.

00:00:32.933 --> 00:00:35.195
You know that stuff starts happening.

00:00:35.195 --> 00:00:36.439
Same thing in the church.

00:00:36.520 --> 00:00:41.968
Now, right, and I know you focus, we're focusing on men.

00:00:41.968 --> 00:00:45.332
Yeah, yes, sir.

00:00:45.332 --> 00:00:54.268
Well, listen, these systems are out here and it's hard, bro, we got to go make that money.

00:00:54.268 --> 00:01:01.088
You got to go take care of your business, handle your business Systems.

00:01:01.088 --> 00:01:06.667
That's pulling us apart, right.

00:01:06.667 --> 00:01:10.983
So the challenge is for us as men.

00:01:10.983 --> 00:01:16.230
Right, in general, you talk about brotherhood.

00:01:16.230 --> 00:01:20.159
Right, how do we be there for each other?

00:01:20.159 --> 00:01:27.786
Because we're experiencing these same things, right, you get what I'm saying when these systems are pulling us apart.

00:01:27.786 --> 00:01:28.947
Man, how you been man.

00:01:28.947 --> 00:01:29.668
It's been a while.

00:01:29.668 --> 00:01:31.448
Yeah, I know, man Working.

00:01:31.448 --> 00:01:34.132
You know what I mean.

00:01:34.132 --> 00:01:41.516
And then we, like you said, we went back to, we went to that new saying which I like now Life, be life.

00:01:44.200 --> 00:01:44.722
That's what I said.

00:01:44.722 --> 00:01:45.364
That's what I'm saying.

00:01:45.364 --> 00:01:46.448
It's not intentional.

00:01:46.448 --> 00:01:49.028
I like how you're saying systems, but go ahead.

00:01:50.343 --> 00:01:52.861
The challenge is for us to.

00:01:52.861 --> 00:01:54.926
You know, we got to fight back against it.

00:01:54.926 --> 00:01:56.682
Do you understand what I'm saying?

00:01:56.682 --> 00:02:03.305
Even in the midst of having to work two jobs, three jobs, we got to figure this thing out to where.

00:02:03.305 --> 00:02:10.871
Hey, bro, we got gotta be there for our brother, you know what I'm saying yeah, we gotta be there for our brothers.

00:02:11.131 --> 00:02:23.006
Yeah, and I know it's a tactic and a strategy of the enemy, because once you pull, once you pull those men, you imagine what, what could be done.

00:02:23.006 --> 00:02:27.854
Yeah, that's that's why I went to the Million man March, because that that was phenomenal, bro.

00:02:27.854 --> 00:02:37.265
Like, if you really, you really think about men, you get a group of men together, right, just just just a group of men.

00:02:37.265 --> 00:02:48.695
I remember listening to a young lady one time and she was talking about you know, we always be picking on the Muslim brothers with the bean pies and the bow tie and all that stuff.

00:02:48.695 --> 00:03:02.393
But she was like, she's like I always respected them because you will always see a bunch of men and them fellas in their fellowship where they, where they, where they kind of band together.

00:03:02.840 --> 00:03:06.246
And you know, I really looked at, I was like she got a point.

00:03:06.246 --> 00:03:17.167
She got a point, she got a point and she said something that was so profound to me and it was not only what she said, but it was how she said it.

00:03:17.167 --> 00:03:33.296
She was like, whenever I see them, she gets an overwhelming, an overwhelming sense of protection that she feels seeing, you know, about 20, 30 brothers lined up together.

00:03:33.296 --> 00:03:42.247
You see what I'm saying yeah, that's like it really escapes me trying, I'm really trying to capture, you know words, to be able to articulate that.

00:03:42.247 --> 00:03:51.890
But, man, if you got, trust me, when you have a bunch of men with a singular focus and purpose standing together, man, that's some power.

00:03:52.252 --> 00:04:06.149
Yeah, trust me, that's some power right there, um yeah, I believe in um, iron sharpens iron and, and you know, I think, what we can do as men, um, we need to respond.

00:04:06.149 --> 00:04:29.504
Respond Because, like, so for instance, like most men may get a text and I'm busy right now, I can't Because sometimes, like you know, you have this brother, especially like in a church, you fellowship with individuals, you pray, and then you try to instill words of affirmation, encouragement your brothers, but when you don't hear from them, of affirmation, encouragement in your brothers, but when you don't hear from them for a while, you send them a text, you give them a call.

00:04:29.504 --> 00:04:36.127
Sometimes you don't even get an answer and you're like man, I want to know what's going on with my brother, like, and they just won't answer.

00:04:36.127 --> 00:04:50.894
So I think, for men, they just need to respond and it don't matter because I get it Like we, you know we're going to cave, we were going on man cave, like, I don't want to be bothered with.

00:04:50.894 --> 00:04:53.557
You know, you may see a text, a brother send you a text.

00:04:53.557 --> 00:05:03.812
Look, I don't even feel like talking right now because we get like that, the sisters, now, the sisters, they'll respond, the sisters will answer, so for me.

00:05:03.812 --> 00:05:05.149
So I'm going to share my experience because I like how you brought up the sisters will answer so it so for me.

00:05:05.149 --> 00:05:10.339
So I'm gonna, you know, I'm gonna share my, my experience because I like how you brought up the sisters, because this is what, this is what we go through.

00:05:10.339 --> 00:05:12.064
If you want to, this is the reality.

00:05:12.144 --> 00:05:14.528
Right, we're christian men, we're fathers.

00:05:14.528 --> 00:05:16.920
Uh, we, we, we got wives, you know.

00:05:16.920 --> 00:05:19.629
We, we got our children and we have to work.

00:05:19.629 --> 00:05:21.194
We have to work.

00:05:21.194 --> 00:05:26.610
So, because these systems that are in place, so we gotta got to spend time with God.

00:05:26.610 --> 00:05:29.545
You know you do not want to take God out.

00:05:29.545 --> 00:05:33.942
You got to devote yourself to God and prayer, spend time with your wife.

00:05:33.942 --> 00:05:37.012
If you got children, spend time with your children.

00:05:37.012 --> 00:05:38.944
But also you got to make that money.

00:05:38.944 --> 00:05:40.047
You got to work.

00:05:40.047 --> 00:05:40.588
In that.

00:05:40.588 --> 00:05:45.209
You know, working Typically you'll be working eight hours, depending on how far is your commute.

00:05:45.209 --> 00:05:51.891
You're pretty much out of the house between nine to 10 hours and if you sleep for eight, eight hours, you still got what?

00:05:51.891 --> 00:05:56.389
Six hours left, right, and that's small, and they're just doing that five days a week.

00:05:57.120 --> 00:06:00.430
So a bit about a bit about my testimony.

00:06:00.430 --> 00:06:11.620
So when I find myself working, I think a brother got to be spiritual enough to know when itself is drifting, because the devil man he is so kind of, like you said, spiritual warfare.

00:06:11.620 --> 00:06:25.199
He'll slowly pull a man away from his devotion with god and away from the brothers, because the minute you see a brother not intact connect with god like that, he's gonna start drifting away from the brotherhood and the fellowship and accountability.

00:06:25.199 --> 00:06:28.742
Because now he's going to find himself so far away.

00:06:28.742 --> 00:06:30.444
Man, how did I get there?

00:06:30.444 --> 00:06:32.622
Why am I not talking to Brother Nick?

00:06:32.622 --> 00:06:34.461
No more, we used to talk all the time.

00:06:34.461 --> 00:06:35.887
We used to fellowship, we used to break bread.

00:06:35.887 --> 00:06:37.574
So I got to share this story.

00:06:37.574 --> 00:06:39.403
I know you're here, but I got to share this.

00:06:39.584 --> 00:06:48.086
It was one season that I was working so much that I ain't even taught the brothers like that.

00:06:48.086 --> 00:06:49.790
I was just like work, work, work.

00:06:49.790 --> 00:06:56.459
But because of the spiritual aspect of me, the godly, spiritual, holy spirit that's inside of me, I caught myself.

00:06:56.459 --> 00:06:58.363
I said wait a minute.

00:06:58.363 --> 00:07:04.627
I find myself I'm becoming like worldly, because now you, I'm around these worldly individuals at my workplace.

00:07:04.627 --> 00:07:10.480
So because you know, they complain a lot yeah, oh, I ain't getting paid that much, I'm tired of management.

00:07:10.480 --> 00:07:14.990
And I found myself doing that and I caught myself.

00:07:15.029 --> 00:07:23.024
I started thinking about Moses when he was in the wilderness and the children of Israel, israel's complaining, yeah, and I'm like, wait a minute, I had to catch myself.

00:07:23.024 --> 00:07:25.668
I said whoa and I and I called you.

00:07:25.668 --> 00:07:38.923
I said I said I need to talk to you, I feel like I'm drifting man, I need to talk to you and I think if men are honest so a person may be watching this right now They'd be like, oh yeah, man, he going through something.

00:07:38.923 --> 00:07:49.896
No, I ain't going through this because I'm honest and I think men got to be honest with themselves that they find themselves drifting or they're not fellowship with somebody that could hold them accountable or encourage them.

00:07:49.896 --> 00:07:53.170
They got to, you know, be careful of that.

00:07:53.170 --> 00:07:53.954
They got to be like.

00:07:53.954 --> 00:07:55.060
You know, I find myself drifting.

00:07:55.060 --> 00:07:56.543
Let me call a brother Sometimes.

00:07:56.543 --> 00:08:00.670
If they're not responding, sometimes they need to take the initiative.

00:08:00.689 --> 00:08:05.033
Because the last time I checked the phone, work both ways Right, because what I find myself?

00:08:05.033 --> 00:08:06.788
I find myself always calling.

00:08:06.788 --> 00:08:08.702
Now I'm always calling, texting brothers.

00:08:08.702 --> 00:08:16.843
But what this is what I find that's very interesting A brother that haven't it could be inside the church or outside the church, family friends.

00:08:16.843 --> 00:08:19.045
Oh man, you don't call me no more.

00:08:19.045 --> 00:08:28.160
Let's just say remember, I just said I'm doing that's calling, I'm doing that's calling, I'm.

00:08:28.160 --> 00:08:30.185
Let's just say, remember, I just said I'm doing that's calling, I'm doing that's calling, I'm doing that's texting, right.

00:08:30.185 --> 00:08:32.524
And then the minute, like you'll hear from me for three to four months, oh yeah, uh, you don't call me, no more, you don't mess with me, no more.

00:08:32.524 --> 00:08:35.647
And I'm like I think the phone worked both ways.

00:08:35.706 --> 00:08:42.986
And men have I don't know if sisters do it, but men have a a bad habit of saying that stuff, a really bad habit.

00:08:42.986 --> 00:08:47.120
And I think for men they gotta take the initiative like man.

00:08:47.120 --> 00:08:48.583
I ain't here from.

00:08:48.583 --> 00:08:49.687
I know nick text me.

00:08:49.687 --> 00:08:54.889
I ain't responding to him, but at least let me let me pick up the phone, let me call him, let me just check up on him.

00:08:54.889 --> 00:08:58.682
Don't and and don't just call me because you want something out of me.

00:08:58.682 --> 00:08:59.404
Oh, I'm broke.

00:08:59.404 --> 00:09:02.754
You know right, call, call me, see how you doing.

00:09:03.556 --> 00:09:12.687
And I think preachers go through that too, because preachers they exert so much energy and try to give, give, give, give, but it's nobody pouring back into the preacher.

00:09:12.687 --> 00:09:16.941
You know your dad was a preacher, so I'm pretty much sure you could talk to this more than I can.

00:09:16.941 --> 00:09:20.048
So nobody's pouring into the man of God.

00:09:20.048 --> 00:09:23.485
He's the one that's pouring, but nobody's pouring into him.

00:09:23.485 --> 00:09:33.566
And I think, for men that find themselves drifting and I'm saying this because I had to catch myself, for those men that's watching me they got to pick up the phone.

00:09:33.566 --> 00:09:34.676
Let me pick up the phone, man.

00:09:34.676 --> 00:09:35.337
You know what?

00:09:35.337 --> 00:09:36.240
I got this message.

00:09:36.240 --> 00:09:37.563
Let me call my brother.

00:09:37.563 --> 00:09:39.235
Hey, man, I see you on YouTube.

00:09:39.235 --> 00:09:41.441
Man, how you doing, bro?

00:09:41.441 --> 00:09:42.923
I think that's where it starts from.

00:09:44.105 --> 00:10:05.902
I think the biggest issue no-transcript, just don't.

00:10:05.902 --> 00:10:06.625
That's good.

00:10:06.625 --> 00:10:16.923
That's hard, though, yeah, that's hard to identify that and to accept that, especially how we came up, where you had to be strong.

00:10:16.923 --> 00:10:20.274
You ain't no man if you ain't strong.

00:10:20.274 --> 00:10:22.254
Think about that for a second.

00:10:22.254 --> 00:10:27.298
This is why I've said it a million times, I'm going to keep saying it, because it is a true statement.

00:10:27.298 --> 00:10:29.345
Man, chris Rock was on to something.

00:10:29.894 --> 00:10:32.080
Listen your very existence.

00:10:32.080 --> 00:10:33.802
They strip that away from you.

00:10:33.802 --> 00:10:40.220
If you can't do what a man is supposed to do, a woman can do all these things.

00:10:40.220 --> 00:10:42.445
She's still a woman, that's true.

00:10:42.445 --> 00:10:43.727
A child can mess up.

00:10:43.727 --> 00:10:45.081
They still a child.

00:10:45.081 --> 00:10:47.663
A pet can do all this stuff.

00:10:47.663 --> 00:10:51.123
We love these dogs and they mess on the floor and I stop.

00:10:51.123 --> 00:10:55.202
You know hit them, but you know that's still a dog and we still gonna treat them and love them.

00:10:55.202 --> 00:10:56.802
But let that man mess up.

00:10:56.802 --> 00:10:58.581
You ain't no man.

00:11:00.301 --> 00:11:01.004
Think about that.

00:11:01.004 --> 00:11:07.836
Like you're very the thing that you are is taken away in the eyes of society.

00:11:07.836 --> 00:11:08.265
Why do you think that is?

00:11:08.265 --> 00:11:09.144
Why do you think is taken away in the eyes of society?

00:11:09.144 --> 00:11:09.453
Why do you think that is?

00:11:09.453 --> 00:11:12.384
Why do you think the enemy came after the man?

00:11:12.384 --> 00:11:16.774
Because the man represents power, strength, all of that stuff we've been saying.

00:11:16.774 --> 00:11:19.664
So here it is.

00:11:21.034 --> 00:11:32.030
You have to come to the realization that, man, listen, you don't have the capacity to be strong all the time.

00:11:32.030 --> 00:11:33.841
I like that, yeah.

00:11:33.841 --> 00:11:47.339
Once you get to the point where you can accept that, then you have to get to the point to where you are very intentional.

00:11:47.339 --> 00:11:54.980
You have to get to the point to where you are very intentional and I think that's where you are in terms of, you know, call texts, you know, do these types of things?

00:11:54.980 --> 00:12:04.961
See, the man is not picking up that phone, he's not responding to a text message or a call, because he's struggling with the fact that I got to be strong.

00:12:04.961 --> 00:12:08.080
Wow, he ain't accepted yet.

00:12:08.100 --> 00:12:09.807
Wow, do you see what I'm to be strong?

00:12:09.807 --> 00:12:10.370
Wow, he ain't accepted yet.

00:12:10.370 --> 00:12:10.994
Wow, you see what I'm saying?

00:12:10.994 --> 00:12:12.379
Yeah, he hasn't accepted that yet.

00:12:12.379 --> 00:12:13.263
Why?

00:12:13.263 --> 00:12:15.902
Because that's just the way it is.

00:12:15.902 --> 00:12:17.907
I have to be strong, yeah, right.

00:12:17.907 --> 00:12:29.702
And if you are not doing those things you know we keep enumerating them Protector, power, provider, right, you mess up in any one of those that trust me.

00:12:29.702 --> 00:12:37.077
That man in his, in his thoughts and in his minds he's, he's wrestling with it, he's trying to figure it out why?

00:12:37.077 --> 00:12:40.768
Because I have to be strong, because if I'm not strong, I'm not a man.

00:12:40.768 --> 00:12:43.414
Wow, do you get what I'm saying?

00:12:43.414 --> 00:12:44.116
Wow, yeah.

00:12:44.116 --> 00:12:49.908
So now intention you made mention of Jesus, which we should always look to.

00:12:49.908 --> 00:12:52.379
Jesus chose 12.

00:12:52.379 --> 00:12:55.787
But then there was also Peter, james and John.

00:12:55.787 --> 00:12:57.821
Yeah, that would go further.

00:12:58.001 --> 00:12:58.342
Yeah.

00:12:58.604 --> 00:12:58.985
With him.

00:12:58.985 --> 00:13:00.577
Do you get what I'm saying?

00:13:00.577 --> 00:13:02.143
Yeah, so he was intentional.

00:13:02.143 --> 00:13:04.976
Yes, right, and I think that helps.

00:13:04.976 --> 00:13:12.009
I know it helps me because here's God in flesh, you know, and here it is.

00:13:12.009 --> 00:13:18.248
He's got to walk to, you know, the Garden of Gethsemane and he pulls on them.

00:13:18.248 --> 00:13:20.783
He's like man, y'all come a little further with me.

00:13:20.783 --> 00:13:25.306
They fall asleep, right.

00:13:25.306 --> 00:13:31.197
And this is where you know, I'm always like looking at him during this moment and I'm trying to learn.

00:13:31.197 --> 00:13:31.940
I'm, you know, I'm.

00:13:31.940 --> 00:13:43.056
Sometimes I'll just sit and when I say I'm looking at, I'm talking about in in my spirit, like I'm trying to look at him during this moment, right, because he's going through it.

00:13:43.056 --> 00:13:48.966
Right, like taking these three with me and going a little further.

00:13:48.966 --> 00:13:52.076
I need y'all to, I need y'all to pray with me.

00:13:52.076 --> 00:13:54.820
Man, yeah, they go to sleep.

00:13:54.820 --> 00:14:06.902
He goes a little further, right, and sometimes it's even difficult to talk about because you don't even like to talk about Christ or God as weak.

00:14:06.902 --> 00:14:09.086
He was weak.

00:14:09.767 --> 00:14:10.008
Yeah.

00:14:10.828 --> 00:14:13.076
You see what I'm saying as a man.

00:14:13.076 --> 00:14:16.787
That makes me feel like, what am I looking at?

00:14:16.787 --> 00:14:18.780
It makes me feel a little weird.

00:14:18.780 --> 00:14:19.482
You get what I'm saying?

00:14:19.482 --> 00:14:23.885
Right, because I still struggle with it sometimes, because I come from that era.

00:14:23.885 --> 00:14:28.144
Man, you be a man, you be strong and trust me.

00:14:28.144 --> 00:14:34.244
I understand what my father and grandfather fathers were trying to tell me and teach me.

00:14:34.244 --> 00:14:37.736
You get what I'm saying, but it was so much of you.

00:14:37.756 --> 00:14:38.278
Be a man.

00:14:38.278 --> 00:14:39.059
You be a man.

00:14:39.059 --> 00:14:41.706
You get up and you better do this and you better do that.

00:14:41.706 --> 00:14:43.596
And they had good intentions.

00:14:43.596 --> 00:14:48.164
But there's no room for you to even look at.

00:14:48.164 --> 00:14:50.769
Well, what do I do if I'm weak?

00:14:50.769 --> 00:14:52.943
Yeah, whose shoulder do you lean?

00:14:52.943 --> 00:14:54.389
Like, yeah, I got I don't.

00:14:54.389 --> 00:14:55.554
Yeah, you get what I'm saying?

00:14:55.554 --> 00:15:01.010
Yeah, like you know, even back then, uh, a mama's boy was kind of frowned upon.

00:15:01.010 --> 00:15:02.394
You get what I'm saying.

00:15:02.394 --> 00:15:03.777
Like you're gonna look at.

00:15:03.777 --> 00:15:06.701
No, no, get out here and you better do.

00:15:06.701 --> 00:15:08.445
You know what I mean.

00:15:08.485 --> 00:15:11.230
Be a man, you be this, you be that.

00:15:11.230 --> 00:15:15.506
And if you can't do that, to whatever degree, you wrestle with that.

00:15:15.506 --> 00:15:24.168
Wow, because society is quick to point that finger and say you ain't no man, you saw, that's what they say you saw, you ain't a man.

00:15:24.168 --> 00:15:32.509
Wow, you get what I'm saying, and and so just the idea of being weak is shun that.

00:15:32.509 --> 00:15:34.181
So let me get back to Christ.

00:15:34.181 --> 00:15:38.162
I'm looking at him and it's like man.

00:15:38.162 --> 00:15:44.557
He's, he's praying, he's in agony and he's like Father.

00:15:44.557 --> 00:15:46.403
I don't want to do this.

00:15:46.403 --> 00:15:47.405
What is that?

00:15:47.405 --> 00:15:52.779
It's weakness, right?

00:15:52.799 --> 00:16:12.922
I think the lesson for me, and I'm still trying to wrestle with it, I think the lesson for me and, I would hope, everybody else, but you know they're watching you, but for me the lesson is it's okay to look at Christ in that moment, and what the scripture is trying to show you is that he's human.

00:16:12.922 --> 00:16:19.288
Yeah, and I think that might be the lesson for us men who wrestle with it.

00:16:19.288 --> 00:16:20.869
Listen, you're weak.

00:16:20.869 --> 00:16:22.029
What does that mean?

00:16:22.029 --> 00:16:23.652
It means that you're human.

00:16:23.652 --> 00:16:26.214
Yeah, I like that.

00:16:26.214 --> 00:16:27.115
Do you get what I'm saying?

00:16:27.115 --> 00:16:28.705
Yeah, like we are.

00:16:28.705 --> 00:16:34.706
So I gotta be strong, I gotta be strong, I gotta be strong that we don't even we miss the fact that we're human.

00:16:35.047 --> 00:16:39.504
Yeah, yeah, that's deep yeah, you miss that.

00:16:39.543 --> 00:16:40.365
Yeah, yeah.

00:16:40.365 --> 00:16:46.844
So it's like what, really, then, is your view of you being strong?

00:16:46.844 --> 00:16:58.153
You pass human, you superhuman, I mean I like Superman, but you know it's.

00:16:58.153 --> 00:17:05.325
I think the revelation of that seeing Christ like that is the fact that he's human and humanity.

00:17:05.325 --> 00:17:09.030
As a man, you get weak, yeah.

00:17:09.030 --> 00:17:25.372
So once you're able to accept that, now be intentional intentional with God and intentional with brothers, brotherhood you get you two or three that can go a little bit further with you.

00:17:25.372 --> 00:17:26.416
Yeah, I like that.

00:17:26.416 --> 00:17:40.929
Even when they can't go further, you go pray to god and when you say amen, you get up, like christ did, and you say nevertheless, your will be done yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good man.

00:17:41.075 --> 00:17:43.721
Brotherhood and accountability, man.

00:17:43.721 --> 00:17:46.807
We could have kept going on this one man, because you know.

00:17:47.855 --> 00:17:48.938
This one here was a struggle.

00:17:48.938 --> 00:17:49.880
I'm like man.

00:17:49.880 --> 00:17:52.684
I had so much in my head that I really couldn't articulate.

00:17:52.684 --> 00:17:55.210
I'm like man like everything was just flooding.

00:17:56.075 --> 00:18:01.779
No, but it's good that we talked about this, because there are men that believe that they need to be by themselves.

00:18:01.779 --> 00:18:09.046
There are men that believe that they need to be by themselves, like I don't want to do it, I'm good, I'm doing good and maybe, maybe they've been hurt in the past Backstab.

00:18:09.226 --> 00:18:12.308
I think what it is is they're incapable of seeing the other side.

00:18:12.308 --> 00:18:13.250
That's what I was trying to say.

00:18:13.250 --> 00:18:21.238
Yeah, like you can't see it, yeah, but you know what was helping me to see it?

00:18:21.238 --> 00:18:21.819
I don't mind sharing my age.

00:18:21.819 --> 00:18:22.119
I'm, I'm, I'm.

00:18:22.119 --> 00:18:23.442
God bless me to be 50.

00:18:23.442 --> 00:18:24.326
I just turned 50.

00:18:24.326 --> 00:18:26.076
Oh really, yeah, bro, I didn't know that.

00:18:26.076 --> 00:18:27.863
God bless you, god bless me, big five.

00:18:27.863 --> 00:18:29.538
Oh, yes, sir, I'm blessed.

00:18:29.538 --> 00:18:30.883
Yeah, and I and I'm.

00:18:30.883 --> 00:18:39.044
You know, I'm always proud of that, because I remember when they were saying we couldn't get past 25 as black men.

00:18:39.064 --> 00:18:41.307
Wow, yeah, I wear that like I'm how old, you 50?

00:18:42.210 --> 00:18:43.311
I made it this.

00:18:43.311 --> 00:18:45.035
This conversation is definitely needed.

00:18:45.035 --> 00:18:46.377
Um, it like it.

00:18:46.377 --> 00:18:50.337
Like I said, they encouraged me because it brought me back to the movie, uh, the forge.

00:18:50.337 --> 00:19:19.419
Yeah, you remember when you watched the movie, all the brothers were in a circle and I think they had their sons, sure and then that older man was instilling, um, he just was empowering that younger man and so when I thought about the brotherhood, I thought about that movie and there's other movies that are out there, but that's the one that kind of like stood out to me because I watched it with my son and then I'm like man, this is how a brotherhood should look like and, thank be to God, there are preachers out there that are doing what they can to do what I just said in terms of brotherhood.

00:19:19.419 --> 00:19:20.821
They're trying to bring men together.

00:19:21.824 --> 00:19:23.407
Um, I know our, our minister.

00:19:23.407 --> 00:19:26.220
He have a brotherhood's call um every friday.

00:19:26.220 --> 00:19:33.984
They do that to empower, encourage men, because we showing up needed we be needing a daily bread, so every friday morning, so they get on.

00:19:33.984 --> 00:19:36.799
Um, you know us men, and we get on and we hear word.

00:19:36.799 --> 00:19:39.450
If you're not catching on, zoom it, you know they.

00:19:39.450 --> 00:19:41.836
They have it on facebook, they have on social media.

00:19:41.836 --> 00:19:47.568
So, thank god, and also, I know on a yearly basis they also have like a men's conference that they go to.

00:19:47.674 --> 00:20:00.069
I know the sisters have more yeah, the sisters have more conferences, but I think all year round, from, I mean, whoever watching me I think that we should probably create systems like that.

00:20:00.069 --> 00:20:13.723
Well, it shouldn't just be like once or twice a year, but this is something that should be constant, every month or so or every quarter, you know, because, like you said, these systems are in place that push us away from hooking up with our brothers.

00:20:13.723 --> 00:20:16.076
Yeah, and that's the thing that we have to face.

00:20:16.076 --> 00:20:23.939
So we're in constant war with the systems and, yeah, that's that's hard sometimes but yeah, I just want to just reiterate, and then we'll let it go.

00:20:23.999 --> 00:20:38.448
Man, just, uh, just the, you know, having the ability to say, doc, I'm not strong, I don't have the capability to be strong all the time.

00:20:38.448 --> 00:20:46.238
I think that's where, where, where we really need to kind of figure out, yeah, how to do that, yeah, and I'll tell you what.

00:20:46.238 --> 00:20:51.615
What helped me, what helped me to kind of figure that out, is actually getting older.

00:20:51.615 --> 00:20:58.328
Oh, getting older, because you know, as you get older, man, yeah, you don't have the strength of youth.

00:20:58.328 --> 00:20:59.977
That's right.

00:20:59.977 --> 00:21:02.559
Like you just don't like.

00:21:02.559 --> 00:21:11.790
Yeah, listen, man, back in my day, man, you know we were talking about lifting weights in the gym and all that stuff right A while ago.

00:21:11.790 --> 00:21:14.502
Back in the day, man, I was all right.

00:21:14.502 --> 00:21:17.521
But, listen, I was all right.

00:21:17.521 --> 00:21:22.525
Well, listen, I put 300 pounds on my chest and go to work.

00:21:22.724 --> 00:21:24.568
Yeah, can't do that, no more.

00:21:24.568 --> 00:21:34.714
Man, listen, there's something about you know, getting older and hear what I'm saying.

00:21:34.714 --> 00:21:36.141
I'm not saying you don't.

00:21:36.141 --> 00:21:39.503
I'm not saying that I'm physically weak.

00:21:39.503 --> 00:21:47.215
What I'm saying is I lost the strength of youth, meaning.

00:21:47.215 --> 00:21:49.299
You know, in my 20ss I pushed 300 pounds off my chest.

00:21:49.299 --> 00:21:50.221
I don't have that anymore.

00:21:50.221 --> 00:21:54.355
Yeah, so then that forces me to kind of face it.

00:21:54.355 --> 00:21:57.382
I don't know if that makes sense to you.

00:21:57.382 --> 00:22:01.616
It's forcing me to face that like I used to be able to do this.

00:22:01.616 --> 00:22:03.000
I can't do that.

00:22:03.000 --> 00:22:06.617
Yeah, you get what I'm saying, right, right, we love basketball.

00:22:07.538 --> 00:22:09.844
I just jump up and grab the rim right.

00:22:09.844 --> 00:22:11.126
I can't do that.

00:22:11.126 --> 00:22:16.445
And just look up now, man, and even that's becoming a struggle, because your eyesight get better.

00:22:16.445 --> 00:22:30.530
So so what I'm saying to you is the trade-off, though, is that my inner man is getting stronger.

00:22:30.530 --> 00:22:36.345
Yeah, so as a young man, I couldn't even see the other side of weakness.

00:22:36.345 --> 00:22:42.461
I couldn't see it Just strength, strong.

00:22:42.461 --> 00:22:43.263
I got to be strong.

00:22:43.263 --> 00:22:45.557
I was told to be strong and guess what?

00:22:45.557 --> 00:22:47.983
I had the physical capability to do it.

00:22:47.983 --> 00:22:49.347
I'm strong.

00:22:49.347 --> 00:22:59.576
I don't have the physical capability like I used to have now, but my inner man is getting stronger because I have to rely on it more.

00:22:59.576 --> 00:23:01.942
Yeah, you get what I'm saying.

00:23:01.942 --> 00:23:11.602
Now I'm able to kind of see hey, man, you don't have the capacity to be strong all the time.

00:23:11.602 --> 00:23:17.401
So I now have to look at the reality, which is the weakness.

00:23:17.401 --> 00:23:24.423
That's what I was trying to tie into what I was saying before with Christ and whatnot.

00:23:25.675 --> 00:23:29.527
And once you were able to look at that, right then you'd be intentional.

00:23:29.527 --> 00:23:32.185
I wish I learned that at 25.

00:23:32.426 --> 00:23:34.457
Yeah, Amen, amen, hey, y'all, that's.

00:23:34.457 --> 00:23:34.717
That's.

00:23:34.717 --> 00:23:35.861
It is a wrap.

00:23:35.861 --> 00:23:38.488
This was a beautiful, wonderful, wonderful episode.

00:23:38.488 --> 00:23:40.118
So y'all put it in a comment.

00:23:40.118 --> 00:23:41.020
So put some comments.

00:23:41.020 --> 00:23:45.980
Put something in the comment section in terms of fatherhood, encourage a father.

00:23:45.980 --> 00:23:47.759
Today it is Father's.

00:23:47.759 --> 00:23:49.902
I call it Father's Day month.

00:23:49.902 --> 00:23:50.636
Well, father's Day month.

00:23:50.636 --> 00:23:52.944
I don't know if that makes sense, but Father's Month, father's.

00:23:52.964 --> 00:24:00.556
Month yeah, we celebrate the whole month and we're striving to bring encouragement to fathers because we show enough need it, but y'all it is a wrap.

00:24:00.556 --> 00:24:01.777
We show enough needed, but y'all it is a wrap.

00:24:01.777 --> 00:24:03.057
This episode is a wrap.

00:24:03.057 --> 00:24:06.541
The time is well spent, god bless, yes, yes, yes.

00:24:06.541 --> 00:24:11.366
So remember that Jesus Christ, he is the King of Kings and he's the Lord of Lords.

00:24:11.366 --> 00:24:12.048
Be blessed.